Understanding the Concept of Autistic Masking

Living with autism can sometimes feel like navigating a world that wasn’t designed with you in mind. You might find yourself constantly adjusting, adapting, and sometimes hiding parts of who you are just to fit in or avoid misunderstanding. This experience is often described as autistic masking. It’s a complex and deeply personal process, and I want to share some insights that might help you feel seen, understood, and supported.

Exploring Autistic Masking Insights

When I first learned about autistic masking, it was like a light bulb switched on. Suddenly, many of my own experiences made sense. Masking is essentially the act of concealing or camouflaging autistic traits to blend in with neurotypical expectations. It’s a survival strategy, often developed unconsciously, to avoid stigma, bullying, or social exclusion.

You might recognise this in yourself or someone you care about. It could look like forcing eye contact when it feels uncomfortable, mimicking social behaviours that don’t come naturally, or suppressing stimming behaviours that bring comfort but might be misunderstood by others.

Masking can be exhausting. Imagine constantly wearing a mask that hides your true self. It takes energy, and over time, it can lead to feelings of isolation, anxiety, and even depression. But understanding this process is the first step towards self-compassion and finding ways to live more authentically.

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What does very high functioning autism look like?

The term "very high functioning autism" is often used to describe individuals who have strong verbal skills and can manage daily tasks independently. However, this label can be misleading. Just because someone appears to cope well on the surface doesn’t mean they aren’t struggling internally.

People with very high functioning autism might still face significant challenges with social communication, sensory sensitivities, and emotional regulation. They might be experts at masking, which can hide their difficulties from others, including professionals. This can delay diagnosis and support, leaving them feeling misunderstood or invisible.

For example, someone might excel at work or school but feel utterly drained after social interactions. They might rehearse conversations in their head or avoid certain situations altogether. Recognising these signs can help you or someone you know seek the right kind of support.

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Practical Ways to Support Yourself or Others

If you resonate with the experience of masking, it’s important to remember that you don’t have to do it alone. Here are some gentle, practical steps that might help:

1. Create Safe Spaces

   Find or build environments where you can be yourself without fear of judgment. This might be a quiet corner at home, a supportive online community, or a trusted friend or therapist.

   
   

2. Practice Self-Compassion

   Remind yourself that masking was a necessary tool for survival. Now, you can start to gently peel back the layers and accept your authentic self.

   
   

3. Set Boundaries

   It’s okay to say no to situations that feel overwhelming. Protecting your energy is vital.

   
   

4. Explore Therapy or Counselling

   Working with a therapist who understands neurodiversity can provide a safe space to explore your feelings and develop coping strategies tailored to you.

   
   

5. Use Creative Outlets

   Expressing yourself through art, writing, or music can be a powerful way to connect with your inner world.

   
   

6. Educate Those Around You

   Sometimes, people don’t understand because they lack information. Sharing resources or your own experiences can foster empathy and support.

   
   

Remember, the goal isn’t to stop masking overnight but to find balance and build confidence in being yourself.

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Embracing Your Journey with Compassion

Living with autism and navigating the pressures to mask can feel overwhelming. But you are not alone. Many of us have walked this path and found ways to honour our true selves while managing the demands of the world around us.

If you’re reading this and feeling tired or unsure, know that it’s okay to take things one step at a time. Celebrate the small victories, whether that’s speaking up for yourself, taking a break when needed, or simply acknowledging your feelings.

You deserve kindness, understanding, and a space where you can be fully you. If you want to learn more about autistic masking and how to navigate it, there are resources and communities ready to welcome you.

Finding Your Own Path Forward

The journey towards self-acceptance and balance is deeply personal. It might involve trial and error, moments of doubt, and breakthroughs of clarity. But every step you take is a testament to your strength and resilience.

If you feel ready, consider reaching out for support. Whether it’s a therapist, a support group, or a trusted friend, having someone to listen without judgment can make a world of difference.

Remember, you are more than your diagnosis or the masks you wear. You are a unique, valuable person with your own story to tell. Embrace your journey with warmth and patience, and know that there is hope and help available.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope it brings you comfort and encouragement on your path. If you want to explore these topics further or need a safe space to talk, I’m here to support you.